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October 9, 2019

Q&A with the partner of a sex worker — my husband

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Given that I am very open about both working in the sex industry and being married, I am often asked by journalists, podcasters, non-sex working friends, and (sometimes) clients how my husband feels about my work. I find these questions difficult because he is integrated into much of […]

October 2, 2019

Working beyond the stigma of the ‘tainted and discounted’ identity that often accompanies sex work

Originally published in Pittsburgh City Paper. The [Ancient] Greeks […] originated the term stigma to refer to bodily signs designed to expose something unusual and bad about the moral status of the signifier. The signs were cut or burnt into the body and advertised that the bearer was a slave, a criminal, or a traitor […]

September 25, 2019

Author of Sex in Recovery: A Meeting Between the Covers urges patience and mindfulness

Originally published in Pittsburgh City Paper. Every September, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration sponsors Recovery Month in order “to increase awareness and celebrate successes of those in recovery.” One of the things that is often left out of conversations during this month, however, is the particular challenges related to sex that often […]

September 18, 2019

Unsolicited input stresses reader’s exploration of polyamory

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Dear Jessie, After being monogamous for many years, my wife Jasmine and I decided to open up our marriage. While she wants to remain monogamous, she has been very supportive of my desire to explore polyamory and of my relationship with my new girlfriend. She is not, however, […]

September 11, 2019

A project that started as ‘fun cartoon porn’ has evolved into a thought-provoking movement

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. The first time I remember having images of my body drastically altered was right after my first wedding. As a gift, my husband’s mother had a couple of our wedding pictures airbrushed. I was shocked when the pictures came back – not because they were bad, they actually […]

September 4, 2019

Tips for navigating parties, relationships, and sexual health for college freshman

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Dear college freshmen, For many of you, this is the first time you are living away from home. This newfound freedom will open up new opportunities for romantic relationships and sexual exploration. While this is really exciting, it can also be overwhelming and scary! To help you navigate […]

August 28, 2019

Joan Price on normalizing senior sex and the strategies for enjoying it

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. When I was growing up, every year on her birthday, my grandmother would declare that she was once again 39. What this taught me as a child was that growing older was so terrible that we had to pretend that it didn’t happen. While it may be outrageous […]

August 21, 2019

Like many BDSM practitioners, financial submissives eroticize giving up control

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. My first encounter with financial domination came by way of an instant message on the phone sex platform where I work. A new client introduced himself, asked if he could call me Mistress, and told me that he has been fantasizing about having me drain his wallet. Fortunately […]

August 14, 2019

If you require an emotional connection to feel any sexual connection, you are not alone

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. The term “demisexual” was coined in 2006 on the forums of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), but it’s only been in the last year or so that I started to see it commonly embraced as an identity, especially on social media platforms and dating apps. In […]

August 7, 2019

What to consider before visiting a swinger club

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. I was in the Netherlands the first time I went to a swinger club. Neither my partner at the time nor I had been to Europe, and we had certainly never been to a sex club. Without really knowing what we were getting into, we got dressed up […]