Columns

March 20, 2019

What is giantess porn?

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. April Would was first introduced to giantess porn last year. Working as a phone sex operator and audio narrator, she received a custom order for three recordings: “one where I played a very cruel giantess [crushing him at the end], one where I played a very romantic giantess, […]

March 13, 2019

In consensual non-consent fantasies, context is everything

Originally Published in Pittsburgh City Paper. TW: this column is about fantasies of being abducted. One of the most remarkable things about sexual desire and pleasure is how much they are deeply tied to context. The same sexual act that is really exciting with one partner may be undesirable or even unsafe with another. This […]

March 6, 2019

With the award-winning short Krutch, Mia Gimp and Clark Matthews aim to make porn accessible for all people

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. There were no curb ramps in Clark Matthews’ neighborhood outside Harrisburg when he was growing up. Because he uses a wheelchair, this severely limited his mobility, restricting his access and in some cases, forcing him into unsafe situations. The day the curb cuts were installed in his community, […]

February 27, 2019

A new sex trafficking law threatens the livelihood of sex workers

Originally Published in Pittsburgh City Paper. Earlier this month, TribLIVE reported that state Sen. Kim Ward (R-Westmoreland) is proposing a state law that would require everyone convicted of sex trafficking and of purchasing sexual services to be added to Megan’s Law, Pennsylvania’s sex offender registry, for 15 years. Those convicted of trafficking minors are already […]

February 20, 2019

A new Kickstarter campaign has a terrible solution to your relationship problems

Originally Published in Pittsburgh City Paper. Three weeks ago, a Kickstarter campaign launched for a piece of technology aimed at improving couples’ communication about sex. LoveSync promises a solution to mismatched libidos. It offers “an entirely new way to increase your sexual frequency and boost your romantic relationship with the simple press of a button.” […]

February 13, 2019

A Valentine’s Day letter to my clients’ wives

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. There’s a popular meme among sex workers that reads, “Thinking that a sex worker is going to steal your man is like thinking that a childcare provider is going to steal your child.” The analogy works because it holds a grain of truth. We do not want to […]

February 6, 2019

What triggers a foot fetish?

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Dear Jessie, From what I have seen online, I have the sense that foot fetishism, including smelling feet and tickling, is quite common in men. Is it? Is it more common in men than in women? What triggers these desires in a man? Max Dear Max, While I […]

January 30, 2019

Sex positivity means accepting vanilla desires along with the kinks

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. As someone who does phone sex and is a member of poly and queer communities, one of the first things new acquaintances ask me is: Are you dominant or submissive? Top or a bottom? Or, more generally: What are you into? What are your kinks? Framing sex in […]

January 23, 2019

Searching for insights into how oppressive beauty standards affect both women and men? Look to the sex industry.

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Sex workers hold men’s secrets. Many of these secrets are the type you’d expect. They talk to us about their marriage frustrations, the kinks that they are afraid to tell their partners about, their anxieties, their relationship regrets, and the panties they wear under their suits. What I […]

January 16, 2019

Can single women trust couples looking for a third on online dating apps?

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Dear Jessie, Can single women trust couples looking for a third on online dating apps? Signed, Tri-Curious Dear Tri-Curious, There’s a lot of stigma around couples who are looking for a third partner for either a casual threesome, or for a more serious dating situation. They are often […]