Ross Douthat and ‘The New York Times’ has amplified the harmful incel mentality. This article lays out why this is problematic and how throwing sex workers at incels is not the answer.
“I think we should be dubious about anyone who takes incels at face value and claims that the problem, here, is lack of access to sex,” Jessie Sage, an independent porn performer and co-host of the Peepshow Podcast, told me in an email. “The problem with the incel community isn’t a problem of lack of sex, it is a problem of power and entitlement and it will not be cured by sex, and certainly not by throwing sex workers under the bus.”
Sage said that while she is not a full-service sex worker, all sex work is implicated in these discussions and sweeping “solutions” to toxic men. Proposing that sex workers take on dangerous and entitled men as clients treats workers as expendable, she said. “It suggests that sex workers should absorb male rage and violence in order to protect other women who are pure. This is not our job. And it’s far too big of a social problem for sex workers alone to solve.”
“The problem with the incels is that they feel entitled to women’s bodies and to their sexuality,” Sage said. “Despite its stigma, sex work actually occupies the exact opposite position: that women’s intimate labor is valuable and ought to be appreciated and fairly compensated.”
“We are not disposable, and we will not be sacrificed so that society can ignore the deeply entrenched problem of toxic masculinity,” she added.