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February 13, 2019

A Valentine’s Day letter to my clients’ wives

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. There’s a popular meme among sex workers that reads, “Thinking that a sex worker is going to steal your man is like thinking that a childcare provider is going to steal your child.” The analogy works because it holds a grain of truth. We do not want to […]

February 6, 2019

What triggers a foot fetish?

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Dear Jessie, From what I have seen online, I have the sense that foot fetishism, including smelling feet and tickling, is quite common in men. Is it? Is it more common in men than in women? What triggers these desires in a man?  Max Dear Max, While I […]

January 30, 2019

Sex positivity means accepting vanilla desires along with the kinks

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. As someone who does phone sex and is a member of poly and queer communities, one of the first things new acquaintances ask me is: Are you dominant or submissive? Top or a bottom? Or, more generally: What are you into? What are your kinks? Framing sex in […]

January 23, 2019

Searching for insights into how oppressive beauty standards affect both women and men? Look to the sex industry.

Originally published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Sex workers hold men’s secrets. Many of these secrets are the type you’d expect. They talk to us about their marriage frustrations, the kinks that they are afraid to tell their partners about, their anxieties, their relationship regrets, and the panties they wear under their suits. What I […]

January 16, 2019

Can single women trust couples looking for a third on online dating apps?

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Dear Jessie, Can single women trust couples looking for a third on online dating apps? Signed, Tri-Curious Dear Tri-Curious, There’s a lot of stigma around couples who are looking for a third partner for either a casual threesome, or for a more serious dating situation. They are often […]

January 9, 2019

Discussing body representation with a Pittsburgh-based body-positive figurative artist

If you were paying attention to social media in 2018, you may have noticed that major platforms such as Tumblr, Facebook, Instagram, and Patreon severely restricted, or altogether banned, adult content and nudity. This type of censorship has real and serious consequences to many marginalized communities. To consider why it’s important for adults to be […]

December 26, 2018

Jessie Sage Recalls How She Found Her Place in Sex Work

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. I often get asked how I got into sex work. I understand that my own story is not representative of many folks, but it is my story and it looks something like this. I got my start in sex work on a cam site. For those unfamiliar with […]

December 19, 2018

Dear Jessie: Is It Normal For Someone to Prefer Clitoral Stimulation/Orgasms to Vaginal Penetration?

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. Dear Jessie, Vaginal penetration is rather “meh” for me. Clitoral stimulation is the best way for me to climax. Everyone seems to think it’s “wrong” that I prefer clitoral stimulation over penetration. Is it normal for someone to prefer clitoral stimulation/orgasms? ~ Shy Spells ~ Dear Shy Spells, […]

December 12, 2018

Local Group, Poly in Pittsburgh, Working to Create a Community that Supports Poly Folks

Originally Published in Pittsburgh City Paper. If thousands of hours of conversations as a phone sex operator have taught me one thing, it’s that for many folks, strict monogamy is tremendously stressful. Those who have sexual desires or kinks that their partner disapproves of or doesn’t want to participate in feel shamed and limited. Those […]

December 5, 2018

Why Snapchat Should Be Grateful to Sex Workers

Originally Published in the Pittsburgh City Paper. In 2011, TechCrunch quoted founder and CEO of Snapchat, Evan Spiegel saying, “I’m not convinced that the whole sexting thing is as big as the media makes it out to be, I just don’t know people who do that. It doesn’t seem that fun when you can have […]